Dear Men

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Don’t be afraid of your fears. They’re not there to scare you. They’re there to let you know that something is worth it.
C. JoyBell C.

We women know what you’ve had to endure. Considered the “dominant” sex for thousands of years, there was a lot of expectations and pressure put on you to be strong, brave, and courageous. Life was about being a hunter, a warrior, and a provider with no room for weakness. You had to make hard sacrifices to survive or fulfill your duties. You were expected to be tough and never allowed to show emotions or fear.

But old paradigms are crumbling and the male species is evolving. Having core truths, beliefs, and perceptions shattered to pieces after thousands of years of DNA encoding is no small feat. It leaves one broken, lost, confused, and shaken, possibly even grasping for the old ways to avoid embracing the unknown that exists in change.

Us women have been riding this wave of change for awhile now, supporting each other along the journey. In many ways, it’s probably easier for us, as our natural tendency is to share our struggles with our Sisters. But rising above oppression, abuse, and violence is a painfully scary, and often times, deadly, task. Our fight for equality still continues. We’ve had to learn how to be independent and provide for ourselves, while also opening to our true feminine nature, we’ve had to learn how to be receptive.

Which brings us to now. Many of us women have learned to be authentic and vulnerable. We have opened our hearts to you and let you in. We have shared our souls with you. We really do accept you for who you are, and just want to love and nurture you.

But men, after thousands of years of being warriors and conquerors, fearlessly charging into battle with weapons drawn, the love and heart of a woman terrifies you and sends you running away like a scared puppy with his tail between his legs. Why is that?

Why can you fight against nations but not for the heart of the woman you love? It’s okay. We accept your fear. We want to see your sensitive side, your tender side, yet we understand how terrifying it is to tear down all the masks and walls and stand naked, raw, and vulnerable, with nothing but faith to guard you.

But I need to ask you to do some soul searching. We know you don’t want to hurt us but you do. Do you really want to settle for a life of mediocrity in order to feel safe? Your job and friends may be satisfying, but deep down, do you want to be alone, just so your ego is protected? Or are you willing to risk it all to have it all?

Once upon a time, couples did marry for love. They stuck it out through thick and thin. That was before too many options destracted us. We’ve become so paralyzed by choices that we make no choice at all.

Many people are aware that the Universe is bringing together Soul Mates to prepare us for Sacred Marriage, in order to unite the Divine Feminine and Masculine, and restore order and balance on Earth. This is part of our evolution and it’s part of a grand design.

Men, we know you can do it. Rather than being in love with the idea or fantasy, we challenge you to rise up and be brave, have courage, and be fearless in making love a reality in your life. Don’t let anything stop you from ending up in the arms of the woman who truly loves you. The one you can’t stop thinking about,¬† the one your heart yearns to be with, the woman who sets your soul on fire and ignites a passion deep within that you’ve never felt before. We ask you to stop fighting it and surrender.

Because how do you want to look back upon your life? With regrets and what-ifs I had only taken a chance? A life never lived because of fear? I can’t promise you it will always work out but you will heal and you will grow and you will be better for it. We women believe in the spark of divinity within you.

We are waiting. But how long until another man with the courage to love outrageously steals her away with the willingness to give her what she deserves? The gamble is yours.

I hope you look back on your life, proud you chose to go after the woman who held your heart, with a lifetime of magical moments as memories that took your breath away, and made it all worth it. The truth is, we need you and can’t do it alone.

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If you’d like to read about what is actually happening inside your brain when you start to fall in love, read this article:
But, many of you know first-hand how falling in love can turn you into an obsessed, needy, and insecure person for a time. You don’t have to have emotional issues from the past to feel this way.”
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/get-hardy/201203/the-early-stages-falling-in-love

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Rebecca

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THE BEAR AND BOUNDARIES: Week of June 12-18, 2015

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POWER ANIMAL ORACLE CARDS by Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D.

I chuckled when I drew this card for you guys today and nodded with confirmation. I’ve been simultaneously working on three blogs while also intending on doing an oracle card reading from my new deck for this week. I published the blog on my daughter’s baptism yesterday and was going to publish my blog ‘Healthy Boundaries, Healthy You’, later this week. In light of the ‘Boundaries’ oracle card pulled, why don’t we just condense the two? Apparently, boundaries are a hot topic right now.

A few weeks ago, I ended up in the ER with excruciating leg pain. I feared I had a blood clot as I could not remember injuring it. I could no longer walk on my left leg. After tests and x-rays, nothing was found and the doctors didn’t know what was causing my pain. This wasn’t my first go-around with mysterious symptoms that stumped the doctors. I mean, Spirit had been telling me for a few weeks already to set some boundaries and take time for self-care, guidance I continued to put off for “another day”. I was severely burning myself out and it wasn’t pretty. So for a week I was forced to spend a lot of time in bed where I received hours and hours and hours of messages from Spirit. I got rest and reflected on my life. Then my ankle miraculously healed and I could walk again! I know better. But how many of us know we need to set boundaries and tend to ourselves in order to be healthy, and yet, have trouble acting on it? Why do we do that? Hopefully, I’ll shed some light for ya here.

I realized many people, myself included, have a hard time being responsible for themselves. That’s what it really comes down to. Wait. What? But I’m like √ľber-responsible. Let me try to explain….

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All we can control in our lives is ourselves…our thoughts, our feelings, our words, our beliefs and perceptions, and our actions. Yet how many of us take on the responsibility of others in an effort to avoid looking at yourself, or in an attempt to control your environment? Maybe you blame others for your own unhappiness, feel resentful or unappreciated, or avoid responsibility all together and expect others to be responsible for you. Some of this behavior may border on enabling but it can be anything from feeling responsible for other people’s feelings, i.e. ‘My partner is unhappy. It must be because of me. I need to make him/her not unhappy.’ You may feel the need to judge or change someone’s choices or opinions. You may take what they say personally.

Guess what? It’s not all about you. Boundaries. Every single person has the autonomous right to be however they want to be. Everyone is walking their own journey, responsible for themselves, and it’s not our business to interfere. Sure, there may be consequences. Again, not your responsibility, as painful as it can be to watch. Allow others to make their own mistakes, their own failures, their own victories, and learn their own lessons.

It’s hard but as soon as you realize and accept that everyone is walking their own journey and the only person you are responsible for is you, you’ll begin to be able to let go and find peace. Rather than feeling like you have to’ get sucked into other’s dramas, you’ll begin the exciting journey of actually living your own life!

A lot of parents struggle with guilt, questioning whether they are giving their children enough attention, enough stuff, enough experiences. By law, you are only required to provide food, shelter, clothing, and an education for your children. Everything else is a privilege. Of course, you want to give your child your love and time. It is recommended that each child gets 10-15 minutes a day of one on one attention. Kids can get pretty demanding and manipulative trying to get more out of you. I think it’s important to teach children healthy boundaries. Teach them the value of their own responsibility and personal space by modeling it for them, rather than perpetuating a lot of the entitled, spoiled kids we see today.

It’s a¬† normal human trait to desire appreciation and acceptance, yet not when it’s rooted in dysfunction. My self-worth is not rooted in taking care of others and having them validate those distorted efforts.

To serve is to love unconditionally, from a pure, giving, and humble heart, within the scope of your limitations and boundaries, putting your needs first.

Our separateness is just as sacred as our Oneness. Then there’s the whole belief that ‘everyone is a reflection of ourself’ and that ‘everything we attract mirrors our own vibration’. I struggled with that. How could the sociopaths I had attracted into my life be a reflection of me? I have recently learned that those who cross our path aren’t necessarily a mirror image of us but bring up in ourselves that which needs to be healed or revealed within. Maybe it’s an inability to be assertive, a lack of self-love, or to trust your intuition. We all have much room for improvement and many obstacles standing in our way of realizing our full potential.

So our past and present relationships with partners, friends, colleagues, family members, in their dysfunction, can help us to see what wounds we need to heal. And yes, some of those wounds are painfully dark, yet it is a gift to have them brought to light.

We also came here with karmic lessons we wanted to learn. Many believe we choose our parents before we come to this physical plane. Our parents, our first teachers, in spite of their issues, may have been our perfect teachers, reflecting for us the deep lessons we needed to learn for our growth. From this viewpoint, it’s easy to feel love, compassion, and forgiveness for even the most difficult relationships.

As we go through this week, learning to set boundaries, say no when needed, take full responsibility for your own life and happiness, and let go and accept that you can’t control or change others, paying attention to the areas where you yourself can change, remember this is all an illusion. We are all just walking each other home. We have created scenarios to help with our soul’s growth but don’t become attached to the scenarios. Evil forces and falsehood are working hard to create the illusion of separation. Pray for the grace to put your false self to rest, thank your ego for its assistance navigating this world,¬† and follow the lead of your Higher Self. Affirm Divine timing, intervention, synchronicity, and miracles along your path. Be filled with joy that you’ve been blessed with another day and pause to dance with each other along the way!

In gratitude,
Rebecca
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VISION: REACHING YOUR GOALS FOR 2015

What does it take to reach your goals?

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Well, first you need to have a vision. That might seem obvious, but for some people, that may be the hardest part. In the free oracle card reading for this week, I gave some suggestions on how to clarify your vision.

Many people enjoy creating a vision board. Here is an example:

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I created this vision board 10 years ago. I’m still working on achieving all the aspects I included but I still feel like it speaks true of who I am today as I was 10 years ago. Obviously, you can re-create, change, or modify your vision board as often as you like. The categories in my vision board are: Relationships, Family, Emotions, Travel, Health, Finances, Education, and Career. Then I added words, images, and quotes that symbolized what I hoped to achieve in each of those categories in my life.

You can also write a letter to yourself, describing everything you want to achieve as if it already happened. Really imagine what it would feel like to have reached your goals and realized your dreams. Have fun with it. Then allow the Law of Attraction to work for you by holding onto those feelings so the Universe can deliver to you the energy you are putting out.

Once you have a clear vision of what you’d like to achieve, you can break it down into three easy steps:

DREAM: This is your ultimate destination. Maybe your dream for 2015 is to buy a house, go back to school, get a new job, start exercising, take a vacation, learn to be more positive, mend a broken relationship, or begin a new relationship. Whatever it is, create a vision that makes you want to jump out of bed in the morning. Passion is what will keep you on coarse. Also, how will you know your dream has come true? Spending the first night in your new house? Digging your toes in the sand in Maui? Fluent in Italian? Write it down.

GOALS: Once you’ve clarified your dream, you set goals. Goals are the stepping stones on the path to achieving your dream. In order to buy a house, you need to have an idea of what kind of house you want, the location, your price range, pre-approval, find a realtor, etc.

OBJECTIVES: Next, break each goal down into concrete action steps with clear, measurable time tables. In order to find a realtor, maybe you talk with friends/family/co-workers/neighbors who have already purchased a home. Maybe you read reviews and research online. Or just flip through the phone book. Whatever the objectives are that will help you reach your goal, put a date that you’d like to accomplish each objective. Many people’s lives pass them by, always intending to pursue their dreams, but never actually accomplishing them. I get it. Life gets crazy. Life gets hectic. But by putting a timeline on your objectives, you can make it a priority to include each little step into your daily, weekly, or monthly “to-do” list.

Clarifying your vision and reaching your goals can seem overwhelming. But I hope that by breaking your goals down into simple steps with a deadline for accomplishing those objectives, you’ll find achieving your dreams to be much more manageable and realistic. If your dream is a destination on your journey, then your goals are the road map, and the objectives are your driving directions.

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Lastly, the most important step is GRATITUDE. Be thankful for what you already have and be grateful for what the Universe is sending you. If you can’t enjoy the gifts you already have, how will having more change anything? Remember, the Universe sends back what you put out, so if your heart is full of gratitude, you will receive more things to be grateful for. Surround yourself with happy, positive, supportive people.

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I would love to hear your thoughts, comments, questions, or what your plans are for 2015!

Have a Safe, Healthy, & Prosperous New Year!

Brightest Blessings
Heaven On Earth Ministries

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