Perfect Love

My daughter and I cuddle up every night and watch “Charmed” on Netflix. In S2:E10 – Heartbreak City – Drazi, the demon of hate, attempts to destroy love. Phoebe, played by Alyssa Milano, assists Cupid to vanquish Drazi, and along the way, learns some valuable lessons from Cupid.

Phoebe was having bad luck in the romance department. Cupid told her it was because her heart was closed, which irritated her and she vehemently denied. He pointed out to her that her fear of losing those she loves has caused her to close her heart to love in order to keep her safe, which in turn, prevented her from attracting love.

Deeper yet, Cupid taught her that the message and the Messenger are separate. People can come and go in and out of our lives, sharing love with us. What’s not important is if they’re intended to stay. What is important, is that we open our hearts to receive those messages of love. People are not perfect. We fail. We make mistakes. We cannot become attached to the Messenger. Just as fear cannot exist in love. Perfect love casts away all fear.

I was surprised that this show had such a profound effect the following day during my meditation that it helped clear some major blockages in my own life that I had failed to see.

I’ve been single for 13 years, and like Phoebe, thought I just hadn’t found the ‘right one’ yet. How many of us, who claim to be open and ready for a relationship, if you took an honest look, still harbor feelings of fear around love? None of us want our hearts broken again. We want to avoid the gut – wrenching pain of betrayal or the sting of rejection. So we wear masks and build up walls.

Maybe even your reason for wanting to find a relationship is fear based: i.e., fear of being alone, fear of failure, financial fears, etc. As a result, you come across as insecure and desperate.

It’s not healthy to be blind to or deny those hidden truths within us. It’s okay to be authentic and vulnerable. That’s when our wounds are given the opportunity to be exposed to the light, to love, and to heal. Admit to yourself what is holding you back from attracting what you really desire.

Because the ‘Independent, I don’t need anyone, sex with no strings attached’ attitude is so last decade. It’s a false sense of ego and it’s time to vanquish those demons – anything that stands in the way of expressing your Divine nature, which is Love.

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Yes, there are times when being alone is a necessary and sacred part of your journey. For this kind of love can only happen when we love our imperfect selves, perfectly. Yet, the time has come to unite and harmonize the Masculine and Feminine in Truth and Power and Love.

To me, perfect love is the pure intention of sharing the gift of love with another, the desire to touch another’s soul so deeply, that even in your absence, they are never the same again.

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Perfect love is kindness, gentleness, and respect.

It is service to another with the hope of easing their burdens.

Perfect love is someone wanting to stay up all night, exploring and excavating the unearthed recesses of your mind.

It is someone who accepts all of you just the way you are.

Someone whose gaze reaches the core of your Being.

Soft kisses on fingertips.

Whose smile lights up your life and makes all your problems disappear.

Someone who wishes to share in your happiness and joy, as well as your sorrows and pain, and everything in between.

Whose scent makes you feel safe and calm and warm.

Passion that can create a whole other Universe.

Perfect love is star gazing together and dancing under the magic of the moonlight.

Small gifts to know you are cherished and sweet texts to know you’re on their mind.

It is the person who takes a seat next to you on this crazy ride called life, buckles ups and holds your hand through the ups and downs, white knuckles, hair blowing, screaming and laughing, exhilarated from sharing this adventure with you.

Whose touch awakens your senses and sets your soul on fire.

An embrace that melts all physical boundaries, where all that remains is your True essence – LOVE.

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Love Always,
Rebecca

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Remembering Your Divine Essence

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Last night I was working on an oracle card reading for myself. In my journey toward finding real love and finding the next step in my journey, I must remove the final walls and barriers I have built to protect myself and present the real me to the world instead of putting on the masks which were once helpful. I must have complete faith and trust in God to provide for me, symbolized by the Dove. I let go of feelings of guilt, did some past life healing, and drifted off to sleep.

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The symbolism in the dream I had is so powerful (and personal) I wanted to share. I had a new baby in addition to the two beautiful children I have now. However, I stuck her in the cage with the kids’ guinea pigs and forgot about her. I would check on her and the pigs occasionally and feel bad for neglecting her. I’d hold her and feed her some and put her back in the cage.

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I began to notice that the cage was freezing up with ice and the pigs could no longer be fed. I continued to be destracted in the care of my baby.

One day the pigs were dead. It was awful. I blamed my kids and others for not taking care of them. I mused about why it was so easy for me to leave my baby in there and forget about her. I talked about what an easy pregnancy she was and how she never cried for food and nurturing so I failed to notice her need. I felt deeply sad and ashamed.

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It was time. It was time to free her from the cage and be her mother. To feed her consistently, hold her warmly, and love her always. I cried as I fully embraced this beautiful child of mine. She was so sweet, so calm, so patient with me. Vibrating pure love.

All day long, I have been thinking about that precious baby and how healing it was to finally SEE her. To spend time with her.

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Of course that darling angel was me. I share this dream in hopes that through meditation and prayer, you as well can find and connect with your inner child, your source of innocence, your Divine nature, and make peace with her. We are all darling angels in God’s eyes!

Sweet dreams and take care of yourself!

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THE BEAR AND BOUNDARIES: Week of June 12-18, 2015

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POWER ANIMAL ORACLE CARDS by Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D.

I chuckled when I drew this card for you guys today and nodded with confirmation. I’ve been simultaneously working on three blogs while also intending on doing an oracle card reading from my new deck for this week. I published the blog on my daughter’s baptism yesterday and was going to publish my blog ‘Healthy Boundaries, Healthy You’, later this week. In light of the ‘Boundaries’ oracle card pulled, why don’t we just condense the two? Apparently, boundaries are a hot topic right now.

A few weeks ago, I ended up in the ER with excruciating leg pain. I feared I had a blood clot as I could not remember injuring it. I could no longer walk on my left leg. After tests and x-rays, nothing was found and the doctors didn’t know what was causing my pain. This wasn’t my first go-around with mysterious symptoms that stumped the doctors. I mean, Spirit had been telling me for a few weeks already to set some boundaries and take time for self-care, guidance I continued to put off for “another day”. I was severely burning myself out and it wasn’t pretty. So for a week I was forced to spend a lot of time in bed where I received hours and hours and hours of messages from Spirit. I got rest and reflected on my life. Then my ankle miraculously healed and I could walk again! I know better. But how many of us know we need to set boundaries and tend to ourselves in order to be healthy, and yet, have trouble acting on it? Why do we do that? Hopefully, I’ll shed some light for ya here.

I realized many people, myself included, have a hard time being responsible for themselves. That’s what it really comes down to. Wait. What? But I’m like über-responsible. Let me try to explain….

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All we can control in our lives is ourselves…our thoughts, our feelings, our words, our beliefs and perceptions, and our actions. Yet how many of us take on the responsibility of others in an effort to avoid looking at yourself, or in an attempt to control your environment? Maybe you blame others for your own unhappiness, feel resentful or unappreciated, or avoid responsibility all together and expect others to be responsible for you. Some of this behavior may border on enabling but it can be anything from feeling responsible for other people’s feelings, i.e. ‘My partner is unhappy. It must be because of me. I need to make him/her not unhappy.’ You may feel the need to judge or change someone’s choices or opinions. You may take what they say personally.

Guess what? It’s not all about you. Boundaries. Every single person has the autonomous right to be however they want to be. Everyone is walking their own journey, responsible for themselves, and it’s not our business to interfere. Sure, there may be consequences. Again, not your responsibility, as painful as it can be to watch. Allow others to make their own mistakes, their own failures, their own victories, and learn their own lessons.

It’s hard but as soon as you realize and accept that everyone is walking their own journey and the only person you are responsible for is you, you’ll begin to be able to let go and find peace. Rather than feeling like you have to’ get sucked into other’s dramas, you’ll begin the exciting journey of actually living your own life!

A lot of parents struggle with guilt, questioning whether they are giving their children enough attention, enough stuff, enough experiences. By law, you are only required to provide food, shelter, clothing, and an education for your children. Everything else is a privilege. Of course, you want to give your child your love and time. It is recommended that each child gets 10-15 minutes a day of one on one attention. Kids can get pretty demanding and manipulative trying to get more out of you. I think it’s important to teach children healthy boundaries. Teach them the value of their own responsibility and personal space by modeling it for them, rather than perpetuating a lot of the entitled, spoiled kids we see today.

It’s a  normal human trait to desire appreciation and acceptance, yet not when it’s rooted in dysfunction. My self-worth is not rooted in taking care of others and having them validate those distorted efforts.

To serve is to love unconditionally, from a pure, giving, and humble heart, within the scope of your limitations and boundaries, putting your needs first.

Our separateness is just as sacred as our Oneness. Then there’s the whole belief that ‘everyone is a reflection of ourself’ and that ‘everything we attract mirrors our own vibration’. I struggled with that. How could the sociopaths I had attracted into my life be a reflection of me? I have recently learned that those who cross our path aren’t necessarily a mirror image of us but bring up in ourselves that which needs to be healed or revealed within. Maybe it’s an inability to be assertive, a lack of self-love, or to trust your intuition. We all have much room for improvement and many obstacles standing in our way of realizing our full potential.

So our past and present relationships with partners, friends, colleagues, family members, in their dysfunction, can help us to see what wounds we need to heal. And yes, some of those wounds are painfully dark, yet it is a gift to have them brought to light.

We also came here with karmic lessons we wanted to learn. Many believe we choose our parents before we come to this physical plane. Our parents, our first teachers, in spite of their issues, may have been our perfect teachers, reflecting for us the deep lessons we needed to learn for our growth. From this viewpoint, it’s easy to feel love, compassion, and forgiveness for even the most difficult relationships.

As we go through this week, learning to set boundaries, say no when needed, take full responsibility for your own life and happiness, and let go and accept that you can’t control or change others, paying attention to the areas where you yourself can change, remember this is all an illusion. We are all just walking each other home. We have created scenarios to help with our soul’s growth but don’t become attached to the scenarios. Evil forces and falsehood are working hard to create the illusion of separation. Pray for the grace to put your false self to rest, thank your ego for its assistance navigating this world,  and follow the lead of your Higher Self. Affirm Divine timing, intervention, synchronicity, and miracles along your path. Be filled with joy that you’ve been blessed with another day and pause to dance with each other along the way!

In gratitude,
Rebecca
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Your Angel Card Reading for January 25-31, 2015

From: HEALING WITH THE ANGELS ORACLE CARDS BY DOREEN VIRTUE, PH.D

From: HEALING WITH THE ANGELS ORACLE CARDS BY DOREEN VIRTUE, PH.D

In this angel card, you see the angel sitting in darkness, protected by a casted circle, and yet, amidst the darkness, there’s a spark of light, from a magical creature.

Spirit shared a vision with me yesterday:

Imagine yourself surrounded by Divine White Light

Connect to Mother Earth through the soles of your feet

Center yourself in your heart chakra, where Love resides

Cast away all fears (God/Goddess are always there to support you)

Now imagine that Divine White Light as a powerful magnet.

With no fear, and complete surrender and trust in the Divine’s will, timing, and intervention, you attract everything you need and desire for your highest and greatest good! What kind of things is your energy field attracting? Affirm that what you need and want is ready to be manifested in your life by your magnetic energy field.

Expect a miracle this week. Sometimes a miracle seems like the only solution to a problem. Be open to allowing God to help you resolve your challenges in ways that may surprise you–what I like to call Divine Intervention, or miracles. As you notice the blessings, miracles, and magic all around you, you will experience even more!

Create magic. Be magical. Have a miraculous week!

Love & Light

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THE GIFT OF GRATITUDE

Yesterday, on New Year’s Day, our family celebrated our 2nd Annual Gift of Gratitude. That is, throughout the year, we wrote down things we were grateful for and collected them in a gift bag. While the kids got drunk on sparkling cider (read: sugar high), we passed the bag around, each pulling out a slip of paper, reading the things we had been thankful for in 2014 and reminiscing on each of the blessings that had come our way this past year. Anything from family activities we had done, having food to eat, to times of peace and quiet, that as a parent, are greatly appreciated. Each one of us had been thankful for the library–the gift of a wealth of books to check out for free, fun summer activities and programs, and their summer reading program, which allowed the kids to earn prizes each week to local restaurants. We were grateful for the members of our community, who helped us pack and move in August, during the week my mom was in the hospital with a blood clot and life threatening infection. Whose generosity toward our family helped give my kids a bright Christmas. There were so many things to be thankful for! Even our black cat, my familiar, Jezebel, was thankful for a warm house, food, water, snuggles, and the occasional tuna as a treat! I am grateful that I am teaching my children the gift of gratitude — the ability to pause, take notice, and give thanks for the abundant blessings in their lives. We look forward to this special New Year’s Day ritual, full of lots of laughter and memories.

I realized when the bag was empty and we were all done, that I should have included the hardships, as well. I feel like they were left out, though intentionally, at the time. But I realized that each of those trials and painful experiences were a gift. They taught me lessons, allowed me to grow, made me a stronger person. My goal for this year is to include those difficulties in our GIFT OF GRATITUDE. Then on New Year’s Day 2016, I can reflect back on how those obstacles benefited me in the end.

Struggling with fibromyalgia and PTSD, I focus on my limitations and my suffering more than I should. I forget to be grateful for my health in other ways. After my car accident that left me in a wheelchair for six months, I realized how much we take the ability to get up and walk around for granted. To be able to use your arms to carry things or shower on your own. When I get sick or have some other temporary issue going on, I’m reminded how much I take for granted the times when I’m not dealing with those problems. So, despite my chronic illnesses, I am going to focus on the health that I do have.

Some of you may have experienced incredible loss in 2014. As you continue to heal, I send you my love, and hope you’re able to recognize the shimmer of light amidst the darkness.

I encourage you to do any variation of our GIFT OF GRATITUDE. Many people do a ‘Gratitude Jar’. Keep a Gratitude journal. Acknowledge what you are thankful for. Focus on your blessings rather than lack. Adopt the attitude of gratitude. Allow the power of gratitude to magically transform your heart and your life; manifesting all that you need and more.

I’d love to hear from you! What are you grateful for?

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VISION: REACHING YOUR GOALS FOR 2015

What does it take to reach your goals?

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Well, first you need to have a vision. That might seem obvious, but for some people, that may be the hardest part. In the free oracle card reading for this week, I gave some suggestions on how to clarify your vision.

Many people enjoy creating a vision board. Here is an example:

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I created this vision board 10 years ago. I’m still working on achieving all the aspects I included but I still feel like it speaks true of who I am today as I was 10 years ago. Obviously, you can re-create, change, or modify your vision board as often as you like. The categories in my vision board are: Relationships, Family, Emotions, Travel, Health, Finances, Education, and Career. Then I added words, images, and quotes that symbolized what I hoped to achieve in each of those categories in my life.

You can also write a letter to yourself, describing everything you want to achieve as if it already happened. Really imagine what it would feel like to have reached your goals and realized your dreams. Have fun with it. Then allow the Law of Attraction to work for you by holding onto those feelings so the Universe can deliver to you the energy you are putting out.

Once you have a clear vision of what you’d like to achieve, you can break it down into three easy steps:

DREAM: This is your ultimate destination. Maybe your dream for 2015 is to buy a house, go back to school, get a new job, start exercising, take a vacation, learn to be more positive, mend a broken relationship, or begin a new relationship. Whatever it is, create a vision that makes you want to jump out of bed in the morning. Passion is what will keep you on coarse. Also, how will you know your dream has come true? Spending the first night in your new house? Digging your toes in the sand in Maui? Fluent in Italian? Write it down.

GOALS: Once you’ve clarified your dream, you set goals. Goals are the stepping stones on the path to achieving your dream. In order to buy a house, you need to have an idea of what kind of house you want, the location, your price range, pre-approval, find a realtor, etc.

OBJECTIVES: Next, break each goal down into concrete action steps with clear, measurable time tables. In order to find a realtor, maybe you talk with friends/family/co-workers/neighbors who have already purchased a home. Maybe you read reviews and research online. Or just flip through the phone book. Whatever the objectives are that will help you reach your goal, put a date that you’d like to accomplish each objective. Many people’s lives pass them by, always intending to pursue their dreams, but never actually accomplishing them. I get it. Life gets crazy. Life gets hectic. But by putting a timeline on your objectives, you can make it a priority to include each little step into your daily, weekly, or monthly “to-do” list.

Clarifying your vision and reaching your goals can seem overwhelming. But I hope that by breaking your goals down into simple steps with a deadline for accomplishing those objectives, you’ll find achieving your dreams to be much more manageable and realistic. If your dream is a destination on your journey, then your goals are the road map, and the objectives are your driving directions.

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Lastly, the most important step is GRATITUDE. Be thankful for what you already have and be grateful for what the Universe is sending you. If you can’t enjoy the gifts you already have, how will having more change anything? Remember, the Universe sends back what you put out, so if your heart is full of gratitude, you will receive more things to be grateful for. Surround yourself with happy, positive, supportive people.

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I would love to hear your thoughts, comments, questions, or what your plans are for 2015!

Have a Safe, Healthy, & Prosperous New Year!

Brightest Blessings
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Letting Go & Non-Attachment

Throughout my spiritual journey, and particularly, during my Dark Night of the Soul, certain phrases and lessons would come to me from Spirit. My journey has always been a mystical one-learning through experiencing the Divine personally. Almost all of the things I’ve been taught, I’ve heard about from Spirit first, and only later found out they were spiritual principles which have been taught for thousands of years.

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This week’s Angel message to Surrender & Release reminds me of two of the most difficult spiritual lessons I had to learn. It’s something I still work on daily.

My Dark Night of the Soul was a result of having to go into hiding from my ex-husband when he was released from prison early, without notifying me, having only served two of his 10 year sentence . I had already survived two years of his terror and now he was, again, stalking me, threatening to kill me, and kidnap my daughter. I lost my healing business, my income, my health, and my friends and family when I had to leave everything behind. He somehow convinced the courts he was a fit father and they granted him supervised visitation.

I remember my bank account always being in over-draft as I never had enough funds. I had always defined my self-worth by my success. I felt like a ‘loser’ and couldn’t accept myself because my bank account was in the negative, as if my worth was measured by dollar signs. That’s when I first heard Spirit whisper, “Let Go” and “Non-Attachment”.

“What?” I asked.

Spirit proceeded to impress upon me the need to release all my worries and fears to God. For someone who was always in control, even grasping for control when life was spiraling out of control, who was responsible, conscientious, ambitious, and at times, OCD, this was something I needed to meditate upon.

But non-attachment? This was an entirely new concept for me. Spirit explained how we should not have an attachment to anything on this earthly plane. All these things are given to us to enjoy but we should not become entangled with anything to the point that its lack will affect us in any way.

Money. I learned to not be attached to it. It was merely a tool, a form of energy, and by letting go, and trusting God, I would learn that my needs were always taken care of in miraculous ways. Money no longer defined me.

Eventually, I was put to the test to practice these lessons in letting go and non-attachment. When family court made the ruling to give my ex supervised visitation, they ordered my daughter to go to counseling to be shown pictures of her father in order to be prepared to meet him. She was four years old and had never met him. I knew deep in my heart this would not end well. There was no way a social worker could protect my daughter from this monster. The courts may not have been able to see it, but I knew what he was capable of. In my grief, I cried out to the Lord.

“Let go” and “Non-attachment”, I heard.

“Really?!? Seriously?!?” I asked angrily.

“Yes”

In as much pain as I’ve ever experienced, I completely released the situation into God’s hands. I let it go. It was no longer my problem. There was nothing else I could do except trust.

Hastily, with searing pain, I gave up my attachment to my daughter and to my life. Soaking my pillow in tears, I told God, “You can have my daughter and my life, if that is what you want”. In that moment, I felt a huge overwhelming relief. No more fighting. Only Surrender and Release.

When the courts set the date for the first visitation, my advocate asked me what my next step was in my fight. I calmly repeated, “Anything can happen.”

About a week or so later, my daughter recognized her father on the morning news, wanted by the US Marshals in connection to a quadruple homicide in the city on the 4th of July. He was still a fugitive a couple weeks later when I was suppose to hand my daughter, and our fate, over to him. The courts reversed their ruling, and two years later, he was sentenced to 400 years in prison after being found guilty of all four counts of murder.

Buddhism believes attachment is the root and cause of all suffering. To put things in perspective, we all come to Earth with our virtues and vices. We are here to pay our karmic debts, learn our lessons, and end the cycle of death and rebirth. Our souls are eternal. This is only our temporary home. The material things, the people in our lives, our experiences, are only here to help us on our journey. Nothing belongs to us. Everything comes from the Source, our Creator.

What is it you’re struggling with or causing you to suffer? I ask you to Surrender & Release. Let go and practice non-attachment.

I’d love to hear your thoughts and comments!

Be Blessed

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